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zedd
Ultralisk
Posted: 7 Jan 2006
15:37 GMT
Total Posts: 428 | well...in friday...my friends and i were prank calling some people we know.
Now there is one girl who I only see one a week. My friend wanted to prank her...
I thought he was just going to ask.."is your refrigerator running?...better catch it!"
but he pretended he was me and asked her on a date....she said OK or yes or something like that...
I wouldn't mind going out with her(she is sort of cute to me) but she lives far... at least 20 miles away...Ifelt bad.... so I told her my friend pranked her....I think that sort of hurt her....but it doesn't show.
(evidence that it may have hurt- she was surrounded by her friends who were acting unusually happy-you know..OMG high pitched yet small screams that go like "Ahww!" then after, i said it..it seemed to go quiet)
Did i do the right thing? Should i have just gone with it?
should i just wait for another opportunity for another girl. or go back and say i lied to cover up?
thanx for reading my excessively long post
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CoffmanRunner
Ultralisk
Posted: 7 Jan 2006
15:58 GMT
Total Posts: 235 | Bad Idea to get on a girls (or groups of girls)bad side! go back and say you were just too shy and then you decided not to go though with so you made up some cover story! also you never know mabey after you aacctully meat her then you will like her!
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zedd
Ultralisk
Posted: 7 Jan 2006
16:45 GMT
Total Posts: 428 | NO! NO! NO!.....i DO know her.
..the problem is...everyone knows that i'm not shy.
EDIT:and i do like her...as a friend... i don't think you readmy post carefully
[Edited by zedd on 08-Jan-06 01:55]
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JcCorp
Probe
Posted: 7 Jan 2006
17:18 GMT
Total Posts:
Edit | Hmmm... well, she is your friend, and they clearly didn't find the prank funny... so I would show your pranking friends that that last call was very mean and go apologize to the girl in person, and if you feel brave enough, say that you'll take her out to lunch or something. Since you're shy, it'll be hard, trust me. I'm incredibly shy around girls I like (and outgoing around those I DON'T like, which leads to some interesting crushes on me) and I keep finding it hard to even talk to them. But don't give up, and keep in mind that this girl was embarrassed in front of her friends, which to a girl is EVERYTHING. So you have to realize that this girl feels awful and that you should either try to make it up to her. Of course, she might decide to pull a "I hate you." Hopefully, that won't be the case.
Good luck! |
stephendonnelly88
Dragoon
Posted: 7 Jan 2006
17:43 GMT
Total Posts: 97 | If you prank call me, I will do what I have been doing since I first started my website:
I will publicly post the prank-caller's phone-number on several forums I frequent, requesting that the members prank-call that person. It's very effective. ;-) |
TI Freak
Probe
Posted: 7 Jan 2006
18:17 GMT
Total Posts:
Edit | Prank phone calls... In your case Zedd, Good luck and God speed!
We used to call 800 numbers, and the pranks fell along the lines of when Japan was trying to take over the us in South Park, and they kept tellin the guys about how large their manhoods were. Oh yeah we had fun with that, especially when it was a woman receptionist... :lol:
And of course I was the one that got to talk to them, because I was the only one that could sound like someone from Japan...
[Edited by TI Freak on 08-Jan-06 03:20] |
Lunchbox
Carrier
Posted: 7 Jan 2006
19:50 GMT
Total Posts: 2007 | Gah! In her eyes, you probably acted tactless and I can't say that's not to be expected of a young girl. Anyways, you should probably slap your friend for putting you in the situation to begin with. The way I see it, there are 2 other things you could have done: 1) you could have rolled with the relationship, but that would have most likely involved some lying and misconceptions and, depending on the type of person she is, could have ended up being a lot more hurtful to her than saying it outright or 2) You could have taken a more median route, telling her that you did like her, but not as much as your friend pretended to have.
Just my humble opinion.
[Edited by Lunchbox on 08-Jan-06 04:50] |
zedd
Ultralisk
Posted: 7 Jan 2006
21:00 GMT
Total Posts: 428 | thanks for your support guys
but i don't know her that well--and i only see her once a week
and i'll go with L's advice-#2
And time is running out because I can only go to the place for 9 more weeks. then that's it.....
I mean talk about fighting on 2 fronts.
didn't think it would hurt me as bad as it has. like a spear through the chest.
I fear i maybe going insanER.
AAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHH!!!!! help me GOD!
EDIT:talk about a lesson well learned!Leearned the hard way.
----DON'T MESS WITH GIRLS----- or cats with sniper rifles. but that's beside the point. DANG..is this called regret?
Oh and no one really has answered my first question
[Edited by zedd on 08-Jan-06 06:04]
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ryantmer
Wraith
Posted: 7 Jan 2006
21:52 GMT
Total Posts: 692 | No, you shouldn't have gone with it, and you should try to make it up to her. I may not be very social, but I know a thing or two about making people happy. As for what L said, that is probably the best idea, but try not to be too arrogant, i.e. in a way that says "I sort of like you, but not much". Next time you see her, you could also try starting a converstion with her, and then, within it, apologize personally for the call.
P.S. Amazing - it would usually take a few days for a topic to accumulate 8 replies, but once you start talking about girls - BAM! - 8 replies in a matter a few hours. We obviously have a few Romeos on the site... |
Lunchbox
Carrier
Posted: 7 Jan 2006
22:39 GMT
Total Posts: 2007 | Not me. I may comprehend a humble few of the incredibly large number of mental intricaces of women, but I in no way pretend to be good at getting them. Because I'm not. And on the point of understanding, I would like to make an incredibly geeky metaphor: Women are like the Heisenberg uncertainty principle, the more you know about one aspect of them, the less it is possible to comprehend another aspect of them. Sad, but true. |
JcCorp
Probe
Posted: 8 Jan 2006
04:53 GMT
Total Posts:
Edit | My life is run by love and my other emotions. I'm a geek, but that doesn't mean I have to think logically. In fact, I've noticed lately that I just haven't been thinking. :questioned_a: |
zedd
Ultralisk
Posted: 8 Jan 2006
11:18 GMT
Total Posts: 428 | so you're thinking... but you only found out that you're not thinking most of the time? Sweet!
back on topic....
any other advice? I'm still hopeful and got a lot ahead of me.
You guys are, I asssume, more experienced at this topic than i am and therefore could help me a bit more.
I really don't want to learn the hard way anymore
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Lunchbox
Carrier
Posted: 8 Jan 2006
13:48 GMT
Total Posts: 2007 | It's the best way. Truly, lessons learned "the hard way" stick with you for a long time, if not forever, but they are almost always painful in the process. |
zedd
Ultralisk
Posted: 8 Jan 2006
17:42 GMT
Total Posts: 428 | some of my friends told me taht i'm quote unquote
"A dumb-@ss" for not taking that once in a life time opportunity.
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ryantmer
Wraith
Posted: 8 Jan 2006
18:12 GMT
Total Posts: 692 | I'm not sayin you are a dumb-...arse, but they are probably right, you should have taken the chance to go out with her. HOWEVER (a big however): it's not over. Ask her again, and try saying something like "and this isn't a prank" to her. REMEMBER: laughter=good. Try to be funny, but if it doesn't work, i.e. if she doesn't have a sense of humour or yours is incredibly annoying, DON"T OVERDO IT! Trying ot be to funny is worse than being completely serious. I hope that helps. |
BullFrog
Wraith
Posted: 8 Jan 2006
21:39 GMT
Total Posts: 623 | A guy and a girl going out isn't like signing a contract of marriage or something. I have gone on several dates with girls who are just my friends - nothing more - and have had a blast. You shouldn't just find one girl and stick with her. Date a variety of girls to see what kind of girl you'd really like to stay with. I'll stop there before I start sounding like a parent (if I haven't already)...
You made the right first step with explaining to her that it wasn't you who called and made the date. Honesty is really a good thing to have between friends. However, I would suggest taking her out to do something. (I mean, you never know - you two might hit it off.) Even if it just for lunch, as mentioned before, or even just for ice cream or something like that, go for it.
By the way, it sounds as though she might like you. The fact that you received a negative response when you said it was a prank should give a rather obvious indication that she was hoping to go.
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Lunchbox
Carrier
Posted: 9 Jan 2006
10:15 GMT
Total Posts: 2007 | I have to agree with BF, but I must say, things are quite different in college (dating-wise) than high school. I haven't been to college ersonally, but I have had many people tell me that dating is more of a casual thing in college, whereas in high school it is actually percieved, sadly, as more binding than that. Not that I'm saying this is right, because I'm not, but that's how it is where I live. Also, I have gone out with girls before without us actually being boyfriend/girlfriend. But, at least where I come from (uber-liberal Cali), as soon as the word date pops up in a sentence, Everyone always assumes there's a relationship going on between the two involved parties. Quite frustrating, really. So, to sum up my mini-essay, I'd say go with BF's idea of asking her out again, alone (that's vital), but DON'T CALL IT A DATE.
Have fun. |
zedd
Ultralisk
Posted: 9 Jan 2006
15:35 GMT
Total Posts: 428 | one more problem.....
as i mentioned before.. she lives at least 20 miles away from where i live. She in NYC-- me in Long Island...(suburbs)
an idea--
The location in which i see her is sort of like a secondary school.
this year is graduation out of the middle level. I'm permanently leaving and not going to the higher level but will graduate.
so this is just a thought....
when year book signing comes along...maybe i thought it would be easier for me to write it in the back of her book than just saying it to her. (if all else fails)-- is this a good thing. or should i avoid at all costs. I thought it would be more dramatic... not that i care butit certainly might have an impact
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BullFrog
Wraith
Posted: 9 Jan 2006
15:43 GMT
Total Posts: 623 | In this case, you could arrange with her to meet somewhere. Or you can take advantage of the public transportation system in that area (I'm assuming one exists there).
As for writing something in her yearbook, don't. Sure it might be cool and all, but why complicate things? All you need to do is call her in the evening or talk to her when she's alone at school (if that ever happens, anyway) or something.
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zedd
Ultralisk
Posted: 9 Jan 2006
17:57 GMT
Total Posts: 428 | point i'm trying to make is that this relationship is complicated.
and if i could just pick up the phone nonchalantly i WOULD..really!
...But i think she wont trust me on a phone as well.
and time! I think the first step is to gain a better understanding... then shoot for the gold.
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ryantmer
Wraith
Posted: 9 Jan 2006
19:47 GMT
Total Posts: 692 | Seriously, just get to know her as a friend first. Even if it doesn't go any further, you'll know she doesn't hate you, and having a friend that's a girl, but not so far as to be a girlfriend is a truly great asset, and, i.m.o., better than a girlfriend. |
BullFrog
Wraith
Posted: 9 Jan 2006
19:48 GMT
Total Posts: 623 | Then write her a short note explaining that you would like to talk with her at her earliest convenience (maybe not in those exact words, but similar) and give it to her. Arrange for a time that would give you enough time to say what you want to say. I know it's rather childish, but she might enjoy such things.
As for the complications of this relationship, there's not much I or anyone here can do unless you want to share them. I imagine you wouldn't want to do that, though. (Just a wild guess...)
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ryantmer
Wraith
Posted: 9 Jan 2006
19:54 GMT
Total Posts: 692 | Whoa... 1 minute response. holy crap.
As for the note thing, if she does like you even a bit, she is probably going through the same thing as you right now, and, thereby, would probably be relieved if you did so. |
BullFrog
Wraith
Posted: 9 Jan 2006
21:25 GMT
Total Posts: 623 | Basically, you'll never know how things would work out unless you find out. The worst that could happen is that she'll never talk to you again, ruin your life, stalk you, slash your tires, call you at three in the morning or generally make your life miserable...
But hey, such is life.
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zedd
Ultralisk
Posted: 10 Jan 2006
13:54 GMT
Total Posts: 428 | ..... at least 20 miles away... with a busy scheule that is really not flexible... so note may not work....
any others?
Do i sound pessemistic?
oh and could it possibly be that she hasn't even thoght of me...or even care? and that it's all in my imagination?
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BullFrog
Wraith
Posted: 10 Jan 2006
15:57 GMT
Total Posts: 623 | You could always have someone drop you off in her general area and then walk to whatever it is you end up doing. A little exercise never killed anyone. As for your schedule, you can make it work if you really want it to happen.
There is the possibility that she doesn't care about you. At all. I mean, she could just be one of those girls who is nice to everyone because that's just how she is. I've run into a couple of them myself. However, don't just assume that - find out for yourself somehow.
As for any other ideas, just one. Suck it in and give her a call. Even if you sound like a complete moron on the phone, at least you made the effort. (And, quite honestly, there are girls who like that.)
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zedd
Ultralisk
Posted: 10 Jan 2006
16:14 GMT
Total Posts: 428 | REALLY!?
...C...Can't....pick...up th...the ph..one...!
I don't think the vacum is working... JK JK..
I would love to hit it off.... but.... AHHHAHAHAHAAAHAAHHHHAAAAHHHUUUUUUUUHHHHHH!!!
HOT HOT HOT!....That song is stuck in my head... I think i should wait until i regain sanity before i do anything... I mean.. i'm going nuts!! I better calm down.. and catch my breath.
whew...inhale.....exhale....scream.....rip my hair out...bang my head...then inhale...exhale....think...whew...pass out..
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BullFrog
Wraith
Posted: 10 Jan 2006
18:15 GMT
Total Posts: 623 | Brick walls work exceptionally well, I hear.
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the_one_achilles
Marine
Posted: 10 Jan 2006
18:59 GMT
Total Posts: 44 | And if all else fails (someone probley already said this) give a simple apology and say "but hey, if you do want to go on a date still, I'm down with it." That way, it's up to her if she wants to do so, and the pressure is off of you. |
BullFrog
Wraith
Posted: 10 Jan 2006
21:22 GMT
Total Posts: 623 | And then she fretts about what to do, like he's doing. :-P
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JcCorp
Probe
Posted: 11 Jan 2006
10:16 GMT
Total Posts:
Edit | Love is stupid like that. <_< I'm having my own weird problems right now with two girls I like and two different girls that I think have a crush on me... O_O; |
zedd
Ultralisk
Posted: 11 Jan 2006
15:02 GMT
Total Posts: 428 | Well...i would Love to put the pressure on her.
But she is not a strong person..... she'll definitely crack under the pressure... I'm most likely handling it better than she would.
That WAS a plan though.... But fortunately, i had enough blood flowing through my brain (see sig).
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Lunchbox
Carrier
Posted: 11 Jan 2006
18:58 GMT
Total Posts: 2007 | Wait a second! How come none of the admins have cursed zedd out about that yet?
Anyways, why not just alleviate the pressure alltogether if she can't handle it? How you ask? Easy. Just clarify everything in your relationship. Tell her the honest-to-goodness truth when you talk to her next (which you must do soon) about asically everything. This will not only throw around 1000 pounds worth of weight form your shoulders, but the same from hers most likely, as she is probably stressing about what you think of her.
Just another two cents from me. But again, nothing is foolproof when it comes to dealing with the fairer sex. Women are more volatile than your average nuclear bomb and can go from 0 to 60 attitude adjustments in around 6 seconds. |
zedd
Ultralisk
Posted: 11 Jan 2006
19:45 GMT
Total Posts: 428 | when i said balls... i meant it in a symbolic way.
Brains= rational thinking balls= high risk chances
you're either thinking straight or not.....
not in a manner of perversion.
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Lunchbox
Carrier
Posted: 12 Jan 2006
15:30 GMT
Total Posts: 2007 | Oh, i see. I was just remebering when I put an AC/DC quote in my sig about balls and had it asked to be removed within a day. |
Neostar
Marine
Posted: 13 Jan 2006
17:53 GMT
Total Posts: 29 | Well, if you're a fan of Prank calls check out my new site: www.neopranks.net |
Lunchbox
Carrier
Posted: 13 Jan 2006
21:21 GMT
Total Posts: 2007 | Please, if you must make plugs, at least confine it to one out of the way forum. |
Neostar
Marine
Posted: 14 Jan 2006
02:02 GMT
Total Posts: 29 | It was just weird that I came here to shamelessly promote my prank call CD and there is a topic on prank calls being discussed... why not capitalize on that? Rudeness? This is the internet, few people express proper eitiquite on the net, and when trying to promote something, I've learned time and time again that it doesn't work. |
BullFrog
Wraith
Posted: 14 Jan 2006
11:47 GMT
Total Posts: 623 | Your level of maturity amazes me.
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Neostar
Marine
Posted: 14 Jan 2006
14:00 GMT
Total Posts: 29 | Sorry, but this is the net it was hard for me to register your sarcasm. Could you try again? |
BullFrog
Wraith
Posted: 14 Jan 2006
22:14 GMT
Total Posts: 623 | My shoe tastes great with cheese.
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Lunchbox
Carrier
Posted: 15 Jan 2006
12:54 GMT
Total Posts: 2007 | Especially goat cheese, feta is too dull a taste with sneakers.
Anyways, to your great surprise, there are actually civilized places on the internet, and this happens to be one of them. |
zedd
Ultralisk
Posted: 15 Jan 2006
17:11 GMT
Total Posts: 428 | and..NEOSTAR...on top of what L just said...
this topic does not promote prank calls...you should have read
so.. I suggest reading posts before you do anything...
that...what you did.. i take personally..it was very RUDE.
you really didn't capitalize here.... you just scre*d your promotion
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Neostar
Marine
Posted: 15 Jan 2006
23:12 GMT
Total Posts: 29 | First off, I did read your posts, I was aware that it didn't promote prank calls, but it was on the topic of prank calls... which is why I posted... I'm not an idiot and the fact that you take it personal just proves how idiotic you are and you don't deserve to listen to my CD. |
zedd
Ultralisk
Posted: 16 Jan 2006
05:58 GMT
Total Posts: 428 | ok then....let's review...
Posted: 14-Jan-06
Well, if you're a fan of Prank calls check out my new site: www.neopranks.net
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don't tell me that it wasn't promting prank calls..or promoting nothing in that matter.
Posted: 14-Jan-06 NEOSTAR
.... when trying to promote something, I've learned time and time again that it doesn't work.....
now read your sig...
Like my games? Check out my poetry... www.dteen.tk
NOT promoting anything!? what are you talking about?
It may not be games or even real for that...but you give a website... that's advertising. so don't lie like that..
and...
if you did read...it didn't show... and cursing the people here to redeem yourself was low.... all you had to do was apologize....
do you understand...comprehend...
and..yes..I am idiotic.... have you read the posts? casue the way you just jumped in....i don't understand how that works.
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JcCorp
Probe
Posted: 16 Jan 2006
06:12 GMT
Total Posts:
Edit | Don't let this get out of hand, anyone, or I'll close the topic. Just a warning, I'm not blaming anyone. |
zedd
Ultralisk
Posted: 16 Jan 2006
09:38 GMT
Total Posts: 428 | @Jc-Go ahead and close it ... by the time you do it might as well be in the garbage.
but in my opinion...this is not out of hand....you didn't have to talk to specific people to calm down like the wars...
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Neostar
Marine
Posted: 17 Jan 2006
00:38 GMT
Total Posts: 29 | "this topic does not promote prank calls...you should have read"
...I wasn't talking about myself doing promotion, I was talking about the topic being about promotion... calm down, it's really not that serious. Your post was a little long, Captain Energy. |
BullFrog
Wraith
Posted: 17 Jan 2006
13:06 GMT
Total Posts: 623 | There is no need to insult others here. If you are incapable of refraining from such actions, please leave.
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zedd
Ultralisk
Posted: 17 Jan 2006
17:09 GMT
Total Posts: 428 | me....i'm calm
i just don't take abuse..... and i thought i might as well put as much info down as possible so that you, Neostar, can understand.
and you were right...it isn't that serious.....
it was just your defensive reaction to the members trying to let you know the nature of the topic or the nature of this site in general that was.
and.... you do not have to leave as long as you are able to accept responsibility..(and promise not to shoot at everything coming at you)
and on another note... i don't think it is the defendant who is the one to tell people to calm down.... although i do understnd your frustration.....
So..ask yourself one thing.....are you up for it? or will you just leave?..... think about it....
if you decide to apologize or at least just make a resolution to stop..... i do believe the majority of CG will forgive and most likely forget....
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